Sometimes you have to look at a whole person and take all of their facets into account.

     But you also have to look at circumstances for some behaviour.  Extreme fear and duress can try even the most sane of people.  And when family is involved, it makes situations even more painful and impossible to deal with because you expect your family to care about your feelings even a little bit.

     And that’s what a lot of people don’t get.  Some actions are made due to circumstance and not by premeditated choice.  Love makes people passionate, and when you have the duress of others atop you, making the wrong decision sometimes seems like the only possible decision.

     I can put that into perspective.  Some people I know can’t.

     Because they’ve never been through it… or only skimmed the surface.