Comments on: Family Dysfunction

By: Diva

Diva — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:39:55 +0000

You know you have your friends. We love you like family, which is good when family goes nutso. My phone rings if you need me.

xoxo~ Diva

By: hazel8500

hazel8500 — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 17:21:25 +0000

Oh my goodness are you another me? I also moved to the other side of the continent and discovered happiness comes with distance to the fam.

Very sorry to hear what you are dealing with. Those were some statements you posted. It amazes me what some people will say to those they profess to “love”. Sick sick sick.

Good luck, keep your chin up and keep doing good by you, not them.
Hazel.

By: JerseyChick

JerseyChick — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 11:29:24 +0000

Your story makes me literally cry- I’m so sorry that people who do horrible things physically and emotionally are hurting you.
Please don’t throw away all of Christianity because of these people, though. You yourself recognize they are NOT acting like what they claim to be! You don’t believe their lies about your personality, PLEASE don’t believe their lies about Christianity!
Christ Himself is worth keeping, and can give you so much peace and healing in this awful, awful situation.
Thank you for listening to my belief and advice.

By: The Monday Melee - April 9, 2007 « fracas

The Monday Melee - April 9, 2007 « fracas — Mon, 09 Apr 2007 19:39:20 +0000

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By: LissaKay

LissaKay — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 05:39:39 +0000

Sorry to hear that you are going through this. I know it sucks. Life is too short and there are too many good people out there to waste time and energy with toxic people. They will suck the life out of you. Karma is a bitch, and will eventually square things up. In the meantime, hang up the phone, delete the email and don’t answer the door. If you cannot avoid these people, at least do not grant them the pleasure of your reaction. Practice a good poker face and use it. Silence is immensely powerful. Divorce yourself emotionally from these people. It will be the single most empowering thing you can do here.

Just some ramblings from a survivor of something similar …

By: practice » Family Dysfunction

practice » Family Dysfunction — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 05:12:54 +0000

[...] Here’s a quick excerpt In situations where one person has been wholly unreasonable, attempts at resolution by a family can serve the purpose of quelling some of the insanity, and if not, at least show with the whom the problem lies… … [...]

By: Mushy

Mushy — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 03:02:41 +0000

Sorry. That’s all I know to say.

My family is wonderful - I am blessed so I can’t identify or offer much help, but you do have my support. Stay true to yourself and your values.

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 02:42:39 +0000

Problem is: I’ve moved around the world and still had to put up with the person who’s intigating this Family Offensive. It didn’t matter that I moved out of the country even, I still had to put up with her regular verbal abuse via telephone and email. And so … I filed a legal document which bans that person from contacting me in any way, shape form or fashion — and the family are livid.

They scream all day, “We’re Christian people! We don’t act like this!” Fact is, it’s freaking sick that you have to do something like this to protect yourself, your property and your livelihood from a family member. But it’s even worse that NOBODY’S EVEN ASKED ME anything about it — they just wanna rip me apart, in Jesus’ name!

Nothing new… I’ve watched ‘em do it to other people in the family, too.

They can have their drama. And they can keep their screwed-up sense of Religion & Family, too. They’ve invalidated anything positive they might say about it by continuing their tirades, backstabbing, vandalism and threats.

So, yeah … that’s the plan.

It’s an unhealthy environment. I want no part of it. Or them.

By: WhoreChurch

WhoreChurch — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 02:21:32 +0000

OK Mark, this is not advice. I don’t give advice. I can tell you what my redhead did when she was put (regularly) into a different yet similar situation: She stopped having any contact with her family. It hasn’t been perfect, and she went through some painful adjustment, but in the long run it has been much better.

One thing was easier for her: She didn’t live in the same city her family did and we have even moved, changed phones since.

At least we can empathize.